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Thursday, May 29, 2014

Why I don't buy books for my child...

Before I became a parent, and really after I became a parent, when my daughter was very young, I pictured owning a bookshelf with hundreds of children's books.  I pictured a child who loved books, bookshelves with a plethora of good books to choose from, and gifts of books at every appropriate occasion.  It just felt like that's a part of what good parenting and educational motivation would be.

Well, now that our daughter is almost four years old, let me tell you the reality.  Our bookshelves are full of books that she barely looks at.  Santa and the Easter Bunny both tried to bring books to her this past year, and all of those books sit on the bookshelf, yet to be read.  I rarely, if ever, buy books for my child.

But... I have a child who loves books.  We have a more than a plethora of good books to choose from.


We have a nice, ever-changing, pile of books that sits on the floor of our living room, next to the fireplace and it's usually filled with books that I would have never purchased for my child.  And my child is learning about things that I never would have thought to teach her about this early in her life, like U.S. Presidents and the lifecycles of trees and bees.

We spend about an hour each week at our local library, and we love it!  Love, love, love it.

Did I mention that we love the library?  Maybe we're even proud to say that we're a little bit obsessed with the library.

We go weekly and switch out our books and learning materials for new ones.  We take out anywhere from 15 to 20 books each week (I know, it's a lot) and usually one learning kit which typically includes books, videos, and toys all around a specific theme (this is how she got hooked on the presidents).

In preparation for our recent trip to visit family out of state, there were several texts back and forth with family members to plan trip details.  One of those texts from my husband to my mother in law was, "Do you have a library card?"  And sure enough, once we arrived, before we headed out to the playground or to visit family, we stopped at the library!

When my daughter was younger, we took advantage of library programs in an effort to get out and about a bit during the week rather than staying cooped up at home.  Most local libraries offer story times, movie nights, craft days, and other fun, most often free, programming.  We would attend those programs, although we didn't borrow books initially (I was still on the "I will buy books for my child that she will love" kick).

One day, when my daughter was about 2 1/2, I asked her if she wanted to borrow some books from the library.  Her eyes lit up, and the rest is history!


We've come across some really great books, authors, and topics that we probably would not have otherwise, if it weren't for the variety at the library.  I try to keep track of the books we've read in goodreads and rate them so that I'll remember what we might like to try to borrow again someday.  There have been a few of these favorites that I have purchased, either new, or at the used book store (another fantastic place), however interestingly enough, these books now sit on the bookshelf unread since purchase!  We've worked our way through several new favorite authors and even will sometimes go online to our library website and request books that they do not have but can get from other libraries all over the state and deliver to our local library for us to pick up and borrow.  I sort of feel like we have the whole world right at our fingertips!

So, I just wanted to encourage you today to check out your local library, if you don't already!  It has been such a great resource for us and something for which I am so thankful.  It's brought about some really neat things in my little girls' love for learning that I think we would have missed out on otherwise.

Does your family frequent the library?  Do you and your kids have some favorite books?  Some of our favorites right now are the Ladybug Girl books by David Soman, anything US Presidents related, and This Tree Counts and These Bees Count by Alison Formento (I just checked goodreads and see that she has some other books in this series too that I will be looking for on our next trip!).  We are obviously always looking for new books to check out (literally and figuratively), so please do share your favorites!  And feel free to connect with me on goodreads so we can share recommendations there too!  I haven't updated in a few weeks... better get on that now!






12 comments:

  1. We have the same problem at my house...hundreds of books and no one is reading them!!! Great advice.

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    1. Thanks for stopping by, Kathy! Give the library a try! I hope it helps the book love come to life!

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  2. It's great that the library books hold your child's interest. Do the books that you own get left on a bookshelf with the spines showing? If so, switching to a book holder that shows the covers of books might make your child more likely to read them as covers pull children in a lot more than the ends of books do.

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    1. Great thought, Emily! We do have a lot of them stored with the spines showing and then some in baskets forward facing. I do agree that it makes some difference and I much prefer that set up too, but I think for my kiddo, she just has a preference for the newness and variety of the library books, for our bedtime reading in particular. I do think I may invest in one of those forward facing book holders in the future!

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  3. I discovered the same thing after building a hearty home library for my daughter. She's now nine and we have books that she's never opened. The public library, however, that's a treasure. We read and return and never regret not having bought the books. It is a little sad as a writer though. I want people to buy MY book!

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    1. Haha! Joey, there will always be some books that just need to be purchased... we will keep yours on that list! Glad you can relate to our dusty bookshelves and library love!

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  4. So true!! We LOVE going to the library!! Not only fun to read, but fun to get out of the house! :)

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    1. Yes! My daughter loves to meet new friends there and depending on where we go, there are special things to do, like puppets, puzzles, and computers ~ all of which are different from what's at home, so, of course, super exciting!

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  5. We have always loved the library. I do confess we still purchase books cause there are books that we will read to our grandbabies and just loved on but the library has been a regular event in our home too.

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    1. We still purchase a few here and there too, Deborah, especially because there are some that are just classics that you just want to own (someday she'll thank me!)! I'm glad you love the library, too! Of course, I wrote this blog yesterday and last night at bedtime, out of the blue, my daughter said "I want to read some of my own books tonight." HA! Thankfully we do have some!

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  6. I purchase tons of books! My son likes to read the same books over and over and over again so I just buy them to make it easier. He has books on just about every topic known to man. I always wanted a little kid that had a really wide knowledge base. We read lots of kid books but we also talk and learn tons about social and environmental issues. He is a pretty well versed 6 year old.

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    1. That's great, Danielle! Isn't it fun how different kids can be? It sounds like both of our kids have found a way to meet that so important learning craving in different ways. It's so exciting to watch them learn and grow!

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